To actually find a solution to the problem or to stop the cycle of bad experiences, the correct question to ask is: "what am I am doing, thinking, or believing that creates this experience over and over again?"
When you examine your thoughts, actions and deeds as they relate to an unwanted or difficult experience, you will discover that you are the cause of the problem, and that you are the source of the solution. If you continue to operate with the same thoughts, same actions, and same deeds without making any changes, why would you expect to create a different experience? Same thoughts, same actions, same deeds equals same experiences.
If you want a different experience, then you have to just get over yourself and do something differently, think something differently, or act in a different way. Change in your life begins with change in you.
